Ok.. So I'm a 16 year old girl from Mississippi. (I'm putting the state because I know the laws differ!) and I live with my mama and step daddy. And we have been having trouble with child support for over two years, since my parents got divorsed. My daddy absolutly does not want to pay. And it's ridiculous because he DOES have the money.. He owns his own business therefore he was suppose to turn in his tax form to the child support office. And never did!! So they just closed the case. Stupid huh.. Well my mama had to pay the fee AGAIN to open up the case for the second time. She calls very regularly up there to check on our case. And they said that the court is in January and that he hired a lawyer. So my mama called him and asked him why he would rather pay a lawyer than just give me some money every month. He said he don't wanna pay because my sister, that is 20 and has a 2 year old baby lives with him and that my mama don't help him with her, and that he pays for her to go to college. First off she lives with his parents not him!! And second isn't she considered an adult since she is over 18 and has a baby. And she goes to college for free because she is a single mom. So that makes no sense what he said. And she also lived with us until like 6 months ago. She had to move in with my grandparents only because she stole over 500 dollars from my mama. But I really am worried that he will win the case. Does anyone have any clue what might happen? I have cried over the fact that my own daddy don't wanna do anything for me.. my step daddy and mama spoil me to death. I think if he wins the case he should sign over his rights of me.
Pretty sure Im not trash.. and me and my mama are real close. and im mature and not stupid so yeah i should be in the situation. plus i always have to talk to the people at the child support office. not by mine or my mama's choice! I don't care about the money. it pisses me off that he don't ever wanna do anythin with me. last time i went over there they told me to leave and not come back. my daddy still wants to be with my mama so he is takin it out on me. i know he has money. he buys my sister new cars and laptops and stuff and she's in and out of jail.!! he does it to rub it in my face. i went over there for my bday without them invitin me and they just looked at me stupid the whole time. his wife knows the lawyer at the child support office. we think thats why they keep droppin the case.
Yeahh I have been tryin to get a job.. no one is hirin :( cause i live in a really small town. my daddy owns a well known business so yeah he is doin well. plus his wife is a nurse. he has no reason not to pay. they just got a new house, had a new baby, new cars, and i think its wrong that my step daddy is supportin me when my real daddy should be. he is doin it out of pure hatred. just to hurt me.
Answer by CM
a complete review of yr case & exst laws need to be looked at.get a solicitor to do that.
Answer by Lance
I'm not sure about Mis., but in Cali, he would go down and go down hard. No matter what, the guy is still your dad, you can't change that, ever. Unfortunately, you are being used in a classic game of tug-o-war, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, he's just dealing with some crap. He's wrong, don't misunderstand me, but realize that there might be things that you don't understand about the situation.
Answer by tonalc2
You need legal assistance. Contact legal aid. Here's where to start:
http://www.mslegalservices.org/MS/StateAboutUs.cfm/County/%20/City/%20/demoMode/%3D%201/Language/1/State/MS/TextOnly/N/ZipCode/%20/LoggedIn/0
Answer by rustybones
This is between your parents and the court system. You have no say in any of it. It's up to your mother to pursue child support through the court system.
Answer by mama outlaw
This is not your problem. You should not be worrying about this. This is between your parents. It is not your business. Shame on your mother for not keeping you unaware of all of this.
You don't really know how much money your dad has. He owns his own business which means he owns his own job which is good for him, but it does not mean he's rich. Don't worry about it.
You have your mother and stepfather and if they are working your family should have enough to live on without a third income from your father. If they want to make drama over this, that's their personal business. You keep out of it. It's not healthy for you.
Your sister is an adult, but being over 18 and having a baby does not make her an independent student by financial aid standards. She may be going to college free (or she may be taking out loans) but she and baby need to eat and live somewhere. She's probably a dependent of one of your parents, and your father may well be providing for her and baby.
If it makes you feel better, your father has a point. He has two daughters and a granddchild, or three "heirs of his body". He is supporting two, and your mother is supporting one, with the help of her new husband. Your dad loves you as much as he ever did. He's being fair.
Your father does not have any significant rights over you. It won't may any difference to your lifestyle if he signs the away or not.
You really do need to pull your emotions and attention away from this financial stuff that truly belongs to your parents and not to you.
Answer by sweet.caroline
Your mother needs to get an attorney to fight this. If she has an order for child support and has not paid it, then she can go after his tax refund if he has one. If he has earned income she can garishee his wages, but since he owns his own business he may not have a business. She may be able to put a lien on his property.
I agree with you that your sister is an adult and the courts no longer make either of them pay for her support. If she has a child she should be having baby's father help support the child.
Your dad should be helping to support you. You can go with your mother to court and tell the judge how this makes you feel. I think you said it well when you say you have cried over the fact that your own daddy doesn't want to have anything to do with you and won't help support you. That needs to be said both to him and to the judge. Do that, please.
I hope they put his butt in jail if he doesn't pay support. They should. But I hope more that your mother is able to find a way to get it from him. If he owes back support she should be going after it. File whatever to get any tax refund.
My sister didn't get child support and found for a long time to get it. Her child was grown but she was able to get it and the back support (she totally had supported her child and the support wasn't that much), but the total was over $ 3000 and she bought her a Corvette (used) with it. Made her feel great every day she drove it thinking that he had to pay for it. She struggled as a single mom paying out child care that was equal to what he was to pay her for support. She had to live with mom for awhile. I am glad that your mom kicked out your sister when she stole money. Have to make them responsible. Problem is that your father didn't learn responsibility. I hope you make better choices. Good luck to you. I'm glad that your step dad and Mom treat you well.
If your step father would want to adopt you, then your dad might be willing to give up his rights and then would not have to continue to pay child support and your stepfather would take on that responsibility. But the back pay -- you and your Mom should have that and go after it. You are a very important and bright young lady. It is your dad's problem and certainly not yours.
Answer by vlad33
I raised 2 step kids without any help.You are young and it sounds like well taken care of.The courts are flooded because of the economy and have put child support on the back burner.I find it hard to believe your real father is doing so well in this economy.Do you work to help your mother,as I did as the child of a broken family?You will be on your own soon,hopefully you also will be given the opportunity of collage.I know it sounds cruel however if I was you I would get a Job.Also from mississippi
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