For the past year i have been to and from court with my daughters father.He wants over night contact.My child sees her dad on saturdays but only for 3.5-4hrs as that is the contact order and sees her on tuesday evenings for a couple of hours.We tried to increase the hours on a saturday(we did this for 8wks_ but my daughter was coming home withdrawn, not her self,upset just a different child really.He now wants her over night and for a full day the next day.There was a social worker involved and she asked my daughter if she wanted to stay, my daughter has made it clear she does not want to stay overnight.She gets upset, has dreams and quite often has tantrums begging me not to let her go overnight, however she does not give proper reasons why.Although my daughter has said no, the social worker insists that my daughter go to her fathers overnight.Is there anything i can say , next time im in court to make it known that it is not in child's best interest to introduce over night contact at this time?
Im fed up going to court once a month and annoyed that, not only do i have to pay expensive fees for my solicitor but the father is able to pay for his and yet he does not pay any child support nor does he pay for any of the upbringing of our child.
He definately would not touch her, and anyway he is never alone with her for that to happen.He lives with another woman now and have a one year old together.Infact, the only reason my daughter wants to go to his is so she can spend time with her sibling.
also- the social worker is pushing that she should stay overnight and a contact order will be written up stating the child must go on a certain date etc.If i refuse would i not get into trouble with courts?
Answer by samariatimms@ymail.com
if she is withdrawn and doesn't act like herself and im sorry if im rude and if this isn't the case but does he touch her inappropriately. in most cases when children act like that they want don't to be left alone or stay over night with them and their personalities change. how old is she and if she really doesn't want to stay over night then don't force her it could cause her to have resentment towards you or her father when she gets older.
the social worker can push for it but your the mother not the social worker. maybe you can try talking with your ex and explain to him that maybe when she gets older she can stay but for now she doesnt want to. and possibly increase the time she spends with him during the day.
Answer by Jordan
Don't make her go if she feels unconformable don't make her! It could be possible he touched her when the other woman was in the restroom!
The one year wont know any better to tell mommy that daddy touched her in the butt or other places! I am not saying he did but it can be possible! Don't make her do anything, if you have custody of her she only has to listen to you!
Ask her ask her if he hurt her and tell her you wont tell him if he did bad stuff reward her if she answers you but don't only reward her if she says yes if she says no it is possible don't force her to do any thing go any ware if she does not want to go is will hurt her on the in side and she wont trust you!
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