I have been sexually assaulted by my colleague and got pregnant. I did not mention it at my work as I did not wish anyone to know. The abuser though said to everyone that I was his girlfriend and then described them in details of how we had sex (I never had any consensual intimate relationship with him). He found out I was pregnant and spread the news everywhere despite knowing I tried to hide it. People started to call me 'A quickie' and made stupid comments. I found it very embarrassing,as I never sleep with men. He kept stalking me, causing damages, threatening etc. He managed to get to my house and rape me again,when I was still in recovery after giving birth through Ceaserean. He threatened that if I ever said to anyone that I would never see the baby again and something would happened to me. He demanded that I should accomodate him free in my house, as he had huge debts but I refused. He then tried to abduct my baby.
I went to police, but he told them I was his girlfriend and we only had an argument.He even tried to kiss me in front of them.
Police advised him not to go near my house but that was it.
Then he came again with some tablets and 2 of his friends trying to get to my house.I called police,but I was said he had not committed any crime. Also police did search of my house because he lied to them that he was living with me and that he had his documents in my house,so he needed them. He directed them to drawers in which I had the most personal things,so I got very embarrassed in front of police.
I complained about the police and I was promised that I would be allowed to give statement,but the same police came and told me again that no crime was committed and they would not take any statement from me. I had all my doors and windows replaced out of fear but the man managed to get to my house by waiting for opportunity and assaulted me again.
He told people at work that we had great night together (with all the details)and that I am pregnant again. I am not pregnant out of this assault though as I miscarried. He came again demanding me letting him in,but I called police again. Then he sent threatening messages all night long so I showed them to police next day,when he was coming again.They gave him harrassment order. I thought the problem was solved. But he now speaks bad about me in my workplace,showing my messages -while misinterpreting their meaning, telling lies etc. I am scared to go back to work after maternity for shame and also as he works there. I don't know what to do,I called police so many times,I had evidence against him, I hired a solicitor-everyone says he is allowed to do these things. Also he took some images of me when I was unconcious (removing my clothes) and I am scared he would show it to others.Police said it is not illegal till he keeps the photos for his personal use,despite I never gave consent to it. What shall I do? Where are basic human rights protecting my privacy and family life? I am in England and desperate.
Answer by Stifle
I think you should be asking your solicitor or the police about this. It seems wrong but it could be just within a legal loophole.
Answer by ALIASHA C
This is very weird because in the states we have laws sexual harassment in the work place and laws of protection in the matter of the police. I would break my lease and move as far away as possible with family. Never return to that job... you have more responsibility now that you have a child to protect them form that evil mad man. Do not be attach to any materials or job... protect yourself and your child and make arrangement to get out of this situation. Please look into agencies that help women to flee from such domestic situations.
At home you should have been able to file a PPO Personal Protection Order to protect you outside of work!
Your country has laws in place that forbid sexual harassment: http://www.out-law.com/page
England National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 200 0247 (24 hours)
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