since yesterday i have lost complete interest in starting university in september 2009 (I was over the moon about university and wanted to be a lawyer/solicitor in the future)
Now after i had an argument with my fiance and seems to have no interest in me studying because he says he wont let me work after marriage and my mother questioning me 'what r u doing to do with a degree after all a woman is a housewife' I mean wat the hell we aren't living in the 1970's or something like that, but the way my relatives are treating me these days is really depressing me, how can i regain interest and become as ambitious as i was a day ago.... i have completely lost it.... feeling worthless... might just be temporary but i dont know.
and yea i am from an asian background... not saying its bad thing but a typical i think..
Thanks
no i am university material, ok that might sound weird but just responding to the first question... its just the family........God..
Answer by crazy8eddie
If you are going to let other people "control" your emotions, perhaps you are not University "material". Don't let them manipulate you. You should get mad and then get even by going to school, getting your degree, practicing law, and having a happy life. The best revenge is living well. Being Asian has nothing to do with it, unless you want to be controlled because it is "traditional". So was killing female children.
Answer by ndmac
He is an idiot, you are better off single.
Answer by Gabby
weml thats so dumb
Answer by olarrrr
sit down talk wth your fiance ask him specifaccly why he doesnt want you working...and tell him that you could at least wok part time...and to you family tell them that it isnt the 1970's and you should be able to work at least part time...isnt that parents dreams for theier kids to go to college?
Answer by revsuzanne
I got news for you... it wasn't like that in the 1970s either. My mom was an executive and us kids depended on her for all the medical benefits, while my dad earned a tidy living as a doctor.
That degree is important, and starting a career is important. That gives you the ability to support yourself and any children you may have in the future... particularly if your man either leaves or dies.
You don't give that up just because the guy has some outdated notion of how his household is going to be set up. He wants an intelligent woman but doesn't want her to be able to do anything?
I'd say that you need to continue with your own course and sideline this guy until he grows up.
Continue dating other guys. You will eventually find someone who is more your own speed.
Answer by joesmart8699
They have the opinion that you will do as you are told, but I think if you are not prepared with at least a degree, then the future family will be burdened with only one income. Sickness, accident or economic downturn may one day force circumstance upon the family income. You may help more with a better earning potential from a degree rather than a minimum wage earning. Tell all concerned that your first duty is to prepare for the future, of which we know very little.
Two incomes are better than one, and you should work until children enter the plans. Don't disrespect your mother, but put the fiance in the right mindset by telling him the rights of women extend to you also.
Answer by Gamber
Okay just think about this, do you HONESTLY want to be completely dependant on somebody else?! It would be boring to stay home all the time and just be a housewife.I feel you should go back and pursue your dreams.I mean obviously the university thought you were good enough to get in because of the potential you showed so you ARE cut out for it.Don't listen to what other people want of you.I know its difficult, but you will make yourself unhappy by trying to make other people happy. Good luck and I hope that helped somewhat : )
Answer by MrsImpartialAnswer
Asian background BS. Go to college, get your degree, learn to be independent. Seems like you need a break from your fiance because he's stupid.
Answer by bebe
keep your head up and dont let them get you down get your education, you only live once so make sure your living the life you want to live and not one that others want for you.
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