Well, - to start off. The wife of 19 1/2 years runns off (a day after x-mas , an after she disappeared and I dont know where she was)
2) home (my parents willed to me) burns down 7 days later
3) the house insurance is not wanting to pay out
I have gotton a lawyer today at 175.00 an hour from a % of recovered HOME INSURANCE; i'll never see nothing of this due to fees; and for those of you out there LEGAL AID does not work for someone who has a case for moneatary Gain!!!!!!!!!!!! Simply does not will not work for you. ( I keep hearing everyone give me advise, but it is a dead end.)
4) I find out on monday after she left she had wracked up $ 40,000 in fees (she stole my fathers credit cards from post office mail box and re-instated them)
5) she has filed a restraining order from oklahoma (I cannot contact her), then saturday i found out she is now in Wyoming??????
WIN WIN WIN....this woman has financially wrecked a good man. And this idiot system is TAKE TAKE TAKE.
THERE ARE NO VICTIMS RIGHTS!!!! PERIOD.
What is protecting me?????????????????????? I have went to every source and I am personally, mentally tired. SUICIDE...PLEASE!!!!!
All i do is keep losing. Great I got a lawyer for the insurance but why even worry about the damn insurance, i won't see nothing.
I have been abandoned, financially raped. People keep saying it will get better, its not. It will not ever. I have no family left. No one to turn to, i am alone (now 42 yrs.) no one would miss me anyway.
I am a loser. (Great, greedy world. take it all)...........
UPDATE..now i have found out the town where my home is (burned up) is getting a partition signing so to have me board up the home. I am financially wrecked. I donot/canot have the funds to work with. WE ARE in a recession. The town there I lived for 30+ years never any trouble, but someone is wallowing there, using my hurt to hurt me more. (Could be someone that my ex-wife is controlling) kicking me while I am down., like i haven;t ben thru enough. The county/town hasn't offered any help, no charity benefits, but they can sure kick me. WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?
Answer by The Baby Zebra
You just have to live with it dude. Try to find a girl friend.
Answer by Simi
awww........tear.....
Answer by Amara C
Your not a loser!!
I think everybody goes through hard times in their life
Just get through them, step by step
if things don't work out maybe its for the best!
Rememeber through everyday dark night, theres a brighter day!
Answer by Amarante
no
need a divorce and find someone (a girl friend)
you need support in your time of need
things will get better but it takes time
Answer by Ana S
Wow!Sounds like a big whirl wind of stuff.I am very sorry all thins has happened to you,and Im not sure this will help but this happens to a lot of people and sometimes even worse stuff like this. I hear about it all the time. If you keep up being strong and don't let your mind and heart get the worst of you. Over come all these bad obstacles and prove to yourself and everyone else you can over come anything.Then write a book. xoxox
Answer by brittanyhart23
ya don't do that! There are good women out there who would appreciate a good man rather you have money or not. And killing yourself only says she wins and I don't think anyone reading this would want that! There should be some way you can put her behind bars for using your fathers credit cards. I mean just get a statement and take to police to show its being used where she is. and there is proof of where she was because of the restraining order that was filed. Your only 42 and that's still young enough to find another companion if your are Truly a good man!
I am so sorry for your miss fortunes.
Good Luck
And you can make it better, no its not to get better if you just sit there and keep thinking like this, get up take action and control over your life!!! You and only you control your life, stop letting her ruin and and get her!!!
Answer by stupendous
Waaaahh! Everything you talk about losing is material. Take your own life, and it won't matter any more, because you will have killed the only thing that really matters, you!
Your wife left, and wracked up bills on unauthorized credit cards. You have to deal with that. I know it is a pain, and not your problem, but do it. Call the credit card companies and explain the situation. Write them so you have record of your agreements.
Your house burned down, and you don't have one. What reason are they giving for not wanting to pay? What did you take the lawyer on for, a percentage of the settlement or a flat hourly rate? If it isn't feasible to have him, then dump him. You can work through it with the insurance people yourself.
You feel down, you feel like nobody loves you, you feel alone. Well my friend, look up to the sky and you will behold Jesus. Jesus is there with you, he will comfort you, he will get you through all this. You have your health, you have your soul, and you have your mind. The Devil and the world can take all your worldly possessions, but they cannot take your Spirit.
Be strong. Get up each day and take the steps needed to rectify your name, to rectify your financial obligations. As you take steps to make yourself right, keep Jesus in your mind. He will guide your steps, he will set you on the right path.
Giving up is for losers...you sir are no loser!
Answer by Tickles
Firstly I am sorry that you have gone through this ideal. Secondly, please know that your misfortune does not make you a loser. What you are enduring does sound tough but people who have been telling you that things will get better are right. Even though it may not seem clear right now.
If you do not have any family that you can talk to, what about any friends that you have? Even if you can talk to friends it might also be ideal to get other help, counselling for instance may help you make sense of everything that is happening.
Make sure you are getting good legal advice (what about the stolen credit cards?) and you may have some sort of bureau or advice centre that can offer independent free advice (we have an equivalent in the UK).
Whatever the situation is, you can rebuild and start again. Being in your early 40's is not too late or old to do that, not at all. People do it at the age of 70 and live rich, fine lives.
And no-one or nothing is worth talking about ending a life over.
It will take time to sort and re-build your life, sure but you will be able to build it stronger and better and in the long run maybe even enjoy it more than ever before.
You have to stay very strong. Things do seem bad now, life can be terribly unfair but you have to grit your teeth and carry on with the knowledge that it has made you stronger and wiser and you are going to do even better next time. Remember that many people lose partners or spouses after many years together but do not all end up alone. That some people lose their homes and all possessions and have to reubild and start again, but they do it.
It can happen and you have to believe in that. Go for it. Seek all the support that you can get legal, couselling, friendship (old and new). Go create new, good and happy memories. Put the past aside and think about where you could be if you start afresh. There must be goals and wishes and dreams you have. Think positively of all the things you will achieve and get the motivation to start sorting your current situation.
Take good care.
Answer by Jay
there r ppl in th world who r in waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay harder situations then u.pick urself up, brush urself and start again from scratch.yes it isnt as easy as a person simply uttering th words but what other choice d'u have?
and u were with ur wife for how many years, u didnt see any warning signs be4 all this?
either way stop feeling sorry for urself, live for u, ur still young enough 2 find th right person have a family, ect...
u need to 1st 2stop wallowing in self pity and start loving urself and take every day at a time.there are women who r in ur situation and have 2pull through, there r kids and younger ppl who been through more and millions who r going through worst.make a list write down the things u gotta do, whats currently possible, what isnt and what steps need 2be taken 4u to reach those point for them 2be possible.
Answer by shy2008
Wow...if I were you, I'd probably feel the same way. Yes...all that has happened to you suc*s like hell...there's no easy way to sugar coat it! I can see where you'd want to check out...but why would you give that damn wife of yours that satisfaction! Yeah, things seem real crappy right now, but as many people have said to you...it will get better. You sound mad as hell! Good for you! Why the hell shouldn't you be mad! What's happening to you is not fair! If your lawyer's not earning his money, then can his lazy a$ $ and find someone who will! Hey bud, your lucks bound to change..hold on until it does.
You're 42 years old...you still have many years of living to do. Don't throw in the towel. I'm sure there would be people in your life that would miss you if you were gone, you're too sad right now to realize it. Please talk to someone about the way you feel before you do something that can't be un done. Life can be good again, but you have to give it another chance. I hope you can do that. Good luck. If you need someone to talk to, many of us here have email addresses for contact. Think about it. Hope this helps...
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