Hey guys,
a few weeks ago my mum suspected my dad of cheating because she saw him talking a women saying stuff like is she filipino and other things, when my dad saw my mum looking he quickly took the page off. My mum's moved to the spare bedroom
Today.. my mum rushed into my room, i never seen her look so upset in her life, and i want to help her asm much as i can. My dad was not at home, so me and my mum went to his office and tried to get evidence. She saw a few e-ticket mails from singapore airlines and silk airways, he's planning to go to singapore then phuket in like end of July. THE THING IS we found another e ticket from Davao city in philippines one adult and one child to go to singapore the same day.. and I think there planning to go to thailand together. WHAT A F*CKING A**H*LE, thats the place where we'd go and have a holiday AND the women is from the same country as me and my mum!!
Im so upset and angry, ive taken photo's of the tickets and stuff, my mums asked me to take pics of the bank accounts.
I need some advice..
What evidence do i need to prove my dad's having an affair- we need to show this to my mums solicitor, and anything else I need to do?
I want my dad to go to hell, I cant beleive this is happening )':
Thank you so much if you can help
I cant stay out if it, my whole family is in Philippines so im the only person who can help my mum :/
Honeslty if your just going to say stay away from this dont comment!!
Answer by Steve-O In AZ
As the child, you stay out of it.
Answer by Cassius
Just stay out of it. Let your parents deal with it.
Answer by deploy pants here
I'm sorry to hear that, I really cant relate to anything like that though. Stay strong
Answer by jackie m
Its nothing to do with you, it is your mums problem not yours but be there for your mum. have you not considered that maybe he was booking a surprise holiday for you and your mum with him?
If your suspicions are correct you cannot do anything about it because legally your mum is the Only person that can sort it out. What is your dad saying about all of this?
Answer by Alexandra
Well you should probably get him to admit to having an affair. If he doesn't, then you should look for more clues. My dad put stuff on the web before too. My mom and I found it and we were heart broken. He felt really bad about it and promised to delete all his profiles and stuff. He promised he would never do it again. My mom decided it would be best for the family to forgive him. If your dad is willing to break up with this woman and you and your mom are willing to forgive your dad that might be best. But if you need evidence, you should snoop some more. Look for things like receipts and things like that. Your mom can check activity on your bank account. Also think about times when he could have been out with this woman. how often is he at home and stuff like that. I hope you guys figure this out! :)
Answer by wardendude38
Your dad deserves to be happy and getting laid is part of that. Your mom probably rejects him on many different levels and he has sought it elsewhere. Why are women always surprised when they are cold and frigid that there men will look in other places if there needs aren't being met.
Answer by Dads boy
In the long run you will realize that he is still your dad . I understand your compassion for your mom taking her side but try to be honest with your dad as well and confront him up front . Thing is do you want to see your mom and dad staying together or do you want him out of your lives . Think about how you want your future relationship to be with your dad then go from there .
edit : We all make mistakes in life even you will . To right off your dad for his mistakes is wrong in every way . Maybe he is looking for someone that will stand by his side because he isn't getting it where he is now .
Answer by Merry
You and your Mum have made some very big assumptions - neither of you REALLY know what your Dad is up to - for all you know he is planning some sort of surprise for you and your Mum - you say this is where your Mum is from, is it possible that he has organised for a relative with a child to visit or something similar??
It is easy in these situations to become carried away and blame one party - but remember your Dad is not alone in this relationship, your Mum plays her part as well. As far as legal issues are concerned - a lawyer would not be interested in what Dad is up to sexually he is only interested in what Dad is doing with money and assets.
Your Mum needs to get copies of all bank statements and legal documents (ie marriage certificate, insurance details etc) and THEN discuss with your Dad what she is concerned might be going on.
Your love & support for your Mum is wonderful and yes, given the fact that she has no family here she does need someone. BUT no matter what goes on between your parents your Dad will always be your Dad. You don't want to hear "stay out of it" and that is not what I'm saying given your Mum's lack of support networks I understand you wanting to be there for her - all I am suggesting is that 'taking sides' and putting yourself in the middle is a position that ultimately could hurt you ~ Be careful and take care of yourself ~ encourage your Mum to stay calm and get all her facts and information together (after all knowledge = power) and then calmly and confidently discuss what she know with your father. Good Luck!
Answer by SpamlessSam
sorry to hear your parents are splitting up, divorce is hard on kids. IMHO you should be a nuetral party, it is very unhealthy to pick one side (mom's), and to turn against your dad. if mom is coaching or coerching you to turn on your dad, i would view this as child abuse and advocate that dad should get custody. they are both part of your life, you are equally part of them 50/50 of you comes from each side, that is how you should view your parents. it will also come in handy for you to have good relations with both, if they do split up and have separate homes, you should want to be welcome in both. otherwise, you won't have much to say if mom is too harsh on you, if you don't have dad to turn to.. and visa versa. it will come in handy to have dad on your side as you get older, need money, want to go to college, etc.. you indicated your mom is a filipina, this fact strongly suggests she has been lacking in the wifely duties, because filipiino men having affairs, or a mistress, it is generally accepted in filipino culture, most women endure this without raising a fuss, and instead filipina women have a reputation for keeping the family and marriage together ... the fact that your mom is filing for divorce, over nothing more than a few emails at this point.. strongly suggests she is doing a lot of other things to push for a divorce, such as no sex.. .. like a typical UK or US woman who is looking to retire on a tidy alimony and child support settlement.. in your case it is not at all clear which woman has the moral high ground at this point.. ... maybe it could turn out you will like your new step mom?
Answer by Jojoo = D
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I can help you!
I'm kind of going through that too :(
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