Well they are not really children anymore but Men(?) it is kinda like a Daddy dearest thing. These sons are 34 and 24 and can do no wrong. One lost a high school ring and blamed me, I took a polygraph test which cost me 250 bucks to prove my innocence. Still no apology from the dad, my so called boyfriend or the son. Other son 24, has turn in one car and 2 trucks into the insurance co to collect $ . Last one he rolled drunk, left the scene of the accident and called in in stolen the next morning. He got the truck back, hid it in our yard and then filed another claim that it was in a accident here and collected 15k. The insurance co caught on and he had to go to court and get a lawyer that cost him 5k. Now they think i turned him in, and i should pay this shady kid his lawyer fees. I think i am in a no win situation here and blood his thicker that water and his "boy" can do no wrong! Should a waste another min on this family??
Yes you are all right! i have stayed to long and we never married cause we had already been in long term marriages. I'm 50 and still it great shape and no way look like a grandma of 2 little girls. T the boyfriend is 54, and together as a couple i thought we were pretty amazing in all aspects of the relationship. Together we were able ot purchase a home in the wood a fixer upper and but alot of sweat equity into it. Now i have one foot out the door, took my $ $ out of the house and got my "own' smaller home......all mine and no more family BS. T and i work together to, same co same dept, so it is almost impossible to advoid him! This is shallow, but even after 8 years i'm attracted to this man, his height, looks, etc and we are a stiking couple......i know silly, but true. I could continue to date him, but would be second choice when it comes to to the kids with holidays and stuff. T is already suggusted that he can juggle us all......I do not like being the leftovers
Answer by ♥STREAKER♥©℗†
NO! leave them NOW!...why should you take the blame when thier father is the biggest enabler in their lives. Once you leave, they won't have anyone to blame but themselves. Get out of there as fast as you can.
Answer by monicadianemercado
His kids are rediculous. They are jealous of dads girlfriend because you are not their mother. I have come to find that alot of dads side with their sons. You either have to accept their crap or get out of there. Good Luck
Answer by dragonfireresurrected
no
and you should have never took the poly
what did that prove?
nothing
only that hey can MANipulate you
leave him and his 2 losers sons
you know what they say
the apple falls only so far from the tree
Answer by JTF
hun just leave them. Family like that will leave u no ware in life! they will find out sooner or later that there just bullies and try go to get away with stuff trust me just leave
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Answer by giafluv
I tell you what,this is what I would do,I would tell this dead beat boyfriend to hit the street.There should NEVER be a time where you should have to take a polygraph test to prove your innocence to a person who claims to love you.He will never see these kids for who they truly are,{if it hasn't happened in 8 years,it never will}so,I would tell them to live happily ever after..I would be DONE...Good luck!!
Answer by infinite crisis 247
this situation is competely ridiculous. not only should you walk away...you should run. your boyfriend sounds like a neglectful enabler, who has raised one loser and another criminal (and yes, he is a criminal...insurance fraud is a very serious crime). what exactly are you getting out of this relationship but grief. maybe you didn't turn him in, but you would have been completely right to as what he did is highly illegal and costs us all extra insurance costs in the end.
you are not in a no win situation. you win by telling this trash family adios as you walk out the door. i wouldn't pay any of his lawyers fees either. after all...if he stole your car and got caught, should you pay those fees too? ridiculous!
Answer by centralmaine
Well at the age they are , it is going to be impossible to change anything now. I have the shoe on the other foot, my partners daughter , I always thought boys were easier, but by the sounds of things, not always! How can you win if he sides with them, other than not be around them period, and that is hardly fair if you have to leave when they are there, but to keep the relationship, the best bet is to stay away from them. Avoid being around them and then there is not conflict if they never see you. I think this is another reason second marriages fail.
Answer by Jane Marple
First thing wrong in your question is: Boyfriend of '8' years. How come you still have the 'girlfriend' status after all those years.
I don't know how old you are but I am 42 and I would not put up with that kind of BS in my life. For the second half of your life don't you want to live in harmony with someone.
Answer by AleciaES
I actually think she should be glad she still has the girlfriend status. You can just walk away. If you were married to him then half of the debt that I'm sure your boyfriend has aquired from them would be yours. Get out as fast as you can.
Answer by Garnet Glitter
No sweetie, cut your losses and go! And your right! You have stayed too long....listen, I was 52 when I met my hubby, 53 when I married him.the man is golden and treats me like I'm a queen......you deserve a better guy and believe me, he's out there...don;t settle anymore for this guy and one more thing....looks don't mean diddly if the treatment you get is shabby......hold out for a guy who will give ya first class treatment.....good luck.
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