If you have full, love, trust and financial security in a relationship, why do you need to get married, if you have no particular strong belief in a religion?
I mean if we were to get married in a church it would be very hypocritical as neither of us have a religion.
And the register office thing just seems so 'business like'. Just kind of informing statistics that you are together
Taking a way the romantic side, is there really any reason to spend a lot of money on a piece of paper???
Is marriage just for insecure people who need reassurance that a divorce would be a big messy affair, and therefore their spouse is less likely to walk in times of trouble??
If my man walks, he can walk, hes a free man, I think not getting married and staying together through hard times is reconfirming your love, as you want to work at it, rather than being obliged by god or solicitors fees. Your thoughts please....
Answer by pj
You are absolutely right.
The peice of paper is just that! a peice of paper.
Answer by shafique
yes i do thats a part of a life. what we do to gain in our life for happy , joyfull,enjoyble,&happy living with my life partner thats it!
Answer by ...
My perception is that having a long-term boyfriend/girlfriend means your married, but not comitted to each other for life. That is, in a long-term bf/gf relationship, the relationship will eventually come to an end. But in a marriage, it's like having a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, only that it lasts forever and ever.
Answer by tjnstlouismo
Because when the time comes that you cannot make decisions for yourself by either illness or accident, the person who is most devoted to your best interest(should be your wife) in most states will have absolutely no rights to take care of you, make those final decisions or even see you. More than once family members who hold a grudge close out the life partner in these situations. If you don't think that's important, then you shouldn't get involved with anyone, especially not have children. When you are incapacitated or dead, you have no control over what happens to the woman you love and the children you have. Do you really want your "next of kin" to have the legal right to pull the plug or get your estate? If marriage means nothing to you, consider what it might mean to your partner or any children you might have.
Answer by Go Wolverines
I was for married for quite a while and found it was just a piece of paper.
Answer by Dinabill
I'm with you, I had a very good relationship with my man for five years and then we got married.
We're still together but everything changed.
I have ask him for a divorce many times so we can be together the way it used to be but I think it's too late now.
I think that piece of paper complicates everything.
Answer by alice in wonderland
Hey, becareful because there is a thing called common law marriage in most states. your perfect world will burn when the state deems you married! Lastly all your explaining is what a marriage is, why not put some bling with that utopia?
Answer by sweet_thing_kay04
Marriage is not just about a piece of paper. It is a commitment to each other.It is also showing each other how much u love and cheerish each other.It is a tradition that goes way back. Plus it is security for you and your children. Breaking up can get ugly.People can change after so many years together. Just because he feels like he does now it doesn't mean he will 9 years from now.You want that documemt so you can get what is yours and you really want it if u have children. Good luck
Answer by phil
Marriage is an outdated obsolete social custom.
Answer by sierra_91_2000
You wouldn't have to get married in a church...you can get married at a courthouse. Nothing religious about that. You save $ $ $ too. No expense of a big wedding and presents.
Now that I am married there are benefits that you don't have when you are not married. If he dies (or I die) we choose the funeral arrangements, not our family. If we are sick we choose what care we get, not his family.
(picture the worst case scenario here) For example if one of us was on life support and we were not married...the family chooses to pull the plug...not your b/f or g/f!
I understand all your points....we were happy for 10 years w/out being married but we decided to make it official. It was what we wanted....no pressure from friends, family, or even each other.
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